Is rape an act of sexual desire?
Most experts agree that rape is an act of aggression and hostility, not of sexual desire. Forcing you to have sex – whether your vagina or anus is penetrated with a penis, or whether a foreign object is used in the act – has nothing to do with sexual passion and pleasure. Rape is a crime of violence in which sex is used as a weapon to dominate and gain power over you.
A less orthodox view holds that sexual desire plays some role in the act of rape, as a kind “fuel” that drives the violent, personal expression of power, but which is secondary to the main object of domination and control.